Understanding the world thru my eyes...

Don't Understand You

2012-02-24T10:49:00.002-08:00

It is interesting how people do things and wonder why they are the ones that get in trouble. One of the biggest problems that we as people have is the feeling of being one up on someone, the problem with that and not thinking about how it might effect you is big.

When your outside around your friends who are not thinking as your not, then what ever you are saying they can agree on and feel that you are correct with your feelings. In the work place that is another factor, how we feel to express ourselves can come back at you rather then the person we have something agents.

I have said it once and I will say it again, we are the only people that complicate our own lives there are a lot of things that are not serious but if take those things to heart and let it effect our lives or at least where we work then what ever happens is on you.

Think about this people it is easier to take 5 minutes for yourself to calm down then letting 5 seconds of anger create 8 months of looking for work.

Yours Truly,

Truth

Fathers

2011-07-02T14:15:00.001-07:00

The love of a father is a strange one, They are the strength of the family and should be the bread winner of the family.

Not to speak ill about all dads, because they are all different, some do care about their kids, some care about the daughter more then the son or the other way around.

But you have fathers that want a family, but not their own, they are happy with having a foot out the door so they can raise someone else's kids instead of their own.

I am a survior from a man who would like to take credit as having been a "Father Figure', but was never there in those times when a father was beyond needed. I learned to be a father on my own and I chose to cut the cycle and do by my children. I refused to subject them or sentence them to the fate I was issused by my donor as so many other children have.

I love my kids, they keep me young, I have learned more as a dad than as a student, I am excited every day as I see them get older and we can have conversations on many levels about many topics, that I tend to find myself matching wits and it becomes fun. I have found my way of talking to my kids where we understand each other while others stare in amazement.

Yet I find myself wondering what I may have done wrong with my own father; the more I seek him out the more I loose him. The more I help the more I am used. Fathers need to understand that at the end of their lives, when they seek forgiveness they need to seek it within themselves not in the kids they have hurt.

Fathers need to remember that having kids does not make a good father, but being there, raising them, and understanding them a great father you shall always be.

Truth

Going Shopping

2011-06-04T16:34:00.000-07:00

It is suppose to be fun to go shopping with your family, but when shopping turns into runway gone bad then there is a problem.

Why is it that single women dress almost nude and women in a relationship look as if they are looking for someone on the side?

It sure looks like women at this day and age don't care of what people think except for when it is someone they are not interested in.

Look I enjoy fashion just like everyone else, I just wish you would dress your age or like a mom when you still have kids that need raising.

As Always
Truth

I Would Love To Thank ...

2011-04-03T13:07:00.000-07:00

Hello everyone, I would love to give a very big Thank You to the person that is not only my Best Friend but has also been my support in many ways including but not limited to being my shoulder in times of need, my ear in times of weakness, my support in times of reaching my low points in life.

My partner with out which I couldn't get lost and find my way when in the car taking a trip, my lover when we can rekindle the moments that connected us, my Wife in times of looking at each other and saying yea we did it.

Truth is I am bless for knowing my wife for 30 years an growing she has been with me true my worse and so far to my best and I would never ask of anyone to be in her shoes because her shoes are special.

She has blessed me with two beautiful children who keep me young and remind me how old I really am ... lol. I thank you for all you have done while being on by my side, helping me with going back to school, advancing the jobs I have had, letting me know that I am better then just settling for anything.

To my Wife Jan I am blessed to have had your guidance since I was a child and your strength as an adult, there are some parts of my life I would change but none will ever include the times I have been with you, OK maybe have done something better and thought of others carefully, but I will never make the same mistakes twice...

Jan I Love you and always will and Thank You.

Just me Wil

2011-03-31T12:17:00.003-07:00

the roses people ...

2011-03-31T12:17:00.001-07:00

Life has an interesting way of making sure your paying attention people go thru life not really seeing what is around them ... we need to stop and smell

Coming to Terms

2010-10-21T08:24:00.000-07:00

It is never easy to understand death as a situation or a cause or even a finally in some peoples eyes.

We as young kids are talked about it as a bad thing, something tragic; but is it really that bad for the person going?

My thoughts are it can be if the way you leave is a tragic one, but let’s think of the people who take it harder then the one that are going to move on. People deal with tragic moments different, some are emotional and some hold things to heart, in which ever case you fall into I guess you have to ask yourself is your actions for you or the person with the problem?

I have found in my years that most people make it about themselves in the sense of how will they move on if that person passes on, the truth is how can one deal with the guilt of the wrong they have done and never corrected while the person was alive.

Why should you be unhappy in the passing of someone that has lived there life to the time that was aloud for them to do so? We as people are not good people, we do things for ourselves instead of for others, We pray to God for ourselves, that he may help us instead of the person with the problem or the family in need. Please God don’t let me or my family know what it is to be in there shoes… that is the secret prayer that is said when no one is around.

Why is it that everyone who is dying is a good person? I will tell you it’s because your guilt is telling you that you have done something wrong to that person and you have sinned in the name of that person in some way or took advantage of that person’s kindness, friendship and the love they have for you.

Do you know that if you genuinely cared for a person and were true to yourself and how true a friend or family member you were in the life of that person that you would be over come with peace the day that the person moved passed away.

I have felt the peace of a person who has passed away, I was happy for that person to have moved on; yes I do still miss that person and think about them but that is what we do when we miss someone we never forget them.

Be true to yourself and to the person that has been there for you, be it family or friend and don’t wait till you can’t be there to regret not doing something for or with that person.

Stay at Peace

Phantom

INTERESTING!! August

2010-09-02T06:18:00.001-07:00

AN INTERESTING FACT ABOUT AUGUST 2010.

This August has 5 Sundays, 5 Mondays, 5 Tuesdays, all in one month. It happens once in 823 years.

I wanted to let you know now because I'll probably miss it next time!

Your Friend

Phantom

I Just Love this...

2010-08-30T07:12:00.001-07:00

Morning Motivation

When I woke up this morning lying in bed,
I was asking myself;
What are some of the secrets of success in life?
I found the answer right there,
in my very room.

AND NOT TO FORGET,
THE CARPET SAID...
KNEEL DOWN AND PRAY.

Carry a Heart that Never Hates.

Carry a Smile that Never Fades.

Carry a Touch that Never Hurts.

HAVE A PURPOSEFUL DAY IN THE LORD!

'God Blesses Us To Be A Blessing Unto Others'

The generosity of your time is the most valuable gift you can give.

Confidence

2010-08-19T07:59:00.001-07:00

Confidence is about not always being right, but not fearing being wrong; not having 2 succeed, but not scared 2 fail; not expecting perfection, but accepting of life's imperfections; not just talking about what needs 2 be done, but willing 2 do what needs 2 be done; not seeing life as why me, but seeing life as ...why not me; not something that can be given 2 you, it's something that is found within you!

This is so true the only problem is what comes with confidence and that’s Intimidation, there are a lot of people intimidated because being confident is like you having super power, but for other you being kryptonite. Let take a women who is confident guys are scared of them because they know what they want and need no one to get it; a man with confident in the work place will always place his boss in alert because if he know what he is doing the boss can’t take credit and is worried about being replaced by someone who can bring something new to the job.

I myself and a victim of having confidence but if you get to know me you will see I am not a bad person and as for work related I am probably the best employee and job can have because not only can I learn my job but can help you with yours.

Just me

Phantom

So they say

2010-08-18T07:43:00.001-07:00

A true friend...would still be your friend, even if they don't agree with you; would ask you, before they accuse you; loves you for who you are, in spite of the things they would want to change about you; may know all of your faults, but would not dare judge you; would not kick you while you are down, but would lie down beside you; may step back if you need them to, but never really leaves you!

The problem with a true friend is that you never know how true a friend they are until it is to late and they turn out not to be a friend at all … Friendship is like a marriage you have to work on it, but keep in mind it goes both ways and a lot of people see it one sided; then 20 yrs go by and you finally noticed that you are the one that has been true and because of it used.

Don’t let what happened in your past friendship stop you from finding a true friend…

Haven’t given up on friendship yet…

Phantom

Understanding

2010-08-10T13:05:00.001-07:00

It isn’t easy understanding oneself, so it makes it that much harder understanding someone else.

We try our best to do what is right to ourselves, for ourselves in hope that it helps to understand others, but as we know that will never be the case. We are not meant to understand each other be it our zodiac signs or just our nature we deem ourselves always right about something and if someone challenges it then a problem accurse.

Why is it so hard for people to be open to understanding each others views, criticism, or maybe misunderstandings about things, no body is perfect and no one is meant to be that is what makes fun when you meet your opposite or better half, becoming one with someone and better each other as the years go on.

I am one that clearly states that I do not cast stones on anyone so why are stone casted at me, whom are you that feels the right was given to you as the caster of stones?, What gives anyone the right, the desire to say something about a person’s believes or understanding or even that they are for how they see things, even worse why should we care about how others see us for they do nothing for us.

I have seen that the first people that don’t understand and throw stones are the very same ones that hide their little secrets behind glass walls in hope that no one see them, but as everyone knows everything falls out of a full closet. The funny part is that those same people blame you for what they did wrong.

My friends I have hurt not only myself but others because of misunderstanding, I have learned to try and see things in the eyes of others but why it is so hard for others to see things in thru eyes I will never understand.

If you were hurt from what you believe it to be a stone by me then I am truly sorry, but as I learn to understand you please see fit to do the same in return and maybe then you will not see a stone but a hand extended in friendship.

Your Misunderstood Friend,

Phantom

Jack Ketchum's "The Girl Next Door" trailer

2010-07-13T08:00:00.000-07:00

Oldie But A Goodie ...

2010-07-08T10:39:00.000-07:00

Grant u one wish

2010-06-18T05:46:00.000-07:00

A man on his harley was riding along a California beach when suddenly the sky clouded above his head and in a booming voice God said, because you have tried to be faithful to me in all ways, I will grant you one wish. The biker pulled over and said, build a bridge to Hawaii so I can ride over any time I want. God replied, your request is materialistic, think of the enormous challenges for that kind of undertaking, think of the steel it would take. I can do this but it is hard for me to justify your desire for worldly things. Take a minute and think of something that could possibly help man kind. The biker thought, finally he said, God I wish all men could understand women, how she feels, what shes thinking, why she cries, what she means when she says something is wrong, why she snaps and how to make her truly happy. God replied, you want two lanes or four on that bridge?

Joke of the Day ...

Phantom

Words Used Loosely

2010-06-15T07:44:00.000-07:00

“You will be well respected if you just didn't acknowledge those you didn't care for, and then be Phony by smiling in their face & talking behind one's back”.

Words that people say but don’t fully understand the meaning, sad part is that the ones that use these words are the ones that talk about everyone else; you know the words “I am not one to gossip so you didn’t hear this from me” …

It is sad to consider someone a friend especially if you work with them and they open their arms for you and treat you like family until you start talking to talk like a true friend to them and they start getting offended because the truth hurts and this goes for real friends especially the ones you grew up with.

You know what people respected what I have to say the way I respect your what you say, if you have a problem with me talk to me don’t act like a child and go to someone else or go to your boss to cry as if you ran to your mommy because your scared. Not sure if you know this but in time you have to face the fact that your friends change a lot because of you not because time has moved one; you need to learn how to deal with people and to grow up, it is not all about you and frankly people get tire of adults that act like babies.

I have noticed that people get upset with someone because they wish they were like the person they are upset with.

Life is to short and real friends are scares stop hurting the ones you have because of envy and be happy that you have true friends, real friends and not people around you that want to use you…

All I have to say is stop making up excuses to not be friends with someone because your life is messed up, especially when they are the ones that are really there for you.

Your friend to whom ever really wants a friend.

Phantom

For all the Ladies that hold there own.

2010-06-11T06:54:00.000-07:00

My QIK

2010-06-04T11:41:00.001-07:00

Rated My Page

2010-06-04T09:11:00.000-07:00

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2010-06-04T09:07:00.000-07:00

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2010-06-04T08:36:00.001-07:00

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The Clown

2010-06-03T10:20:00.000-07:00

I never thought of it but now I find it to be true, if I was to compare myself to anything it would be a clown…

I have more in common with him then I thought… In the eyes of the world I am a happy person one who is always in a great frame of mind, a good mood as it will.

I seem as if nothing is wrong and or nothing bothers me, but truth be told I am far from it, Skeleton are in everyone’s closet and ever since I was young I was taught to keep hidden the truth behind my eyes, never to let out the cry behind the clowns smile.

It is never easy to be as strong as you are seen to be, even when you know it will take a lot to do so.

People take advantage of you what do you do, put on your clown face, people comment behind your back what do you do, you put on your clown face, things happen for reasons that will not be explained they just happen and what do you do, put on your clown face.

No one said making it this far would be easy and the road a head wouldn’t come with a price, so what ever you do remember to put on your clown face, keep smiling and don’t share something that will come back at you because even if the clown is smiling you will never know what he is thinking and his actions will say …

Be happy to know me as a Clown and not a Joker …

Your Clown always Phantom1012

The Pilots

2010-05-26T14:37:00.000-07:00

The type of Plain they will fly

2010-05-26T14:36:00.000-07:00

The Ride ...

2010-05-24T11:22:00.001-07:00

Bad Day

2010-05-24T10:37:00.001-07:00

Back In The Day

2010-05-21T08:52:00.000-07:00

My Niece ....

2010-05-19T07:46:00.001-07:00

Jan next to Brothers bike

2010-05-18T17:53:00.000-07:00

Love A Rainy Day...

2010-05-18T08:11:00.001-07:00

My Brother in Law's Bike

2010-05-13T12:33:00.000-07:00

The G-Mack Crue

2010-05-11T10:32:00.000-07:00

My Bro KenDog Working Out

2010-05-11T06:25:00.000-07:00

A Song For Mama by Boyz 2 Men

2010-05-07T13:21:00.000-07:00

To My Mom

2010-05-07T10:04:00.000-07:00

I know I wasn’t the best son a mother can ask for; I was a mess in school, was always in to some problem or another, always in a fight defending myself, hated the world growing up and yet I was still your son.

I recall when I was depressed because my father was not around as he should have been and you heard me out thru all the screaming and the yelling and especially the crying and you was still there and me not noticing that you was also playing the role of a father and I thank you.

You and I have gone thru a lot together, every time I think about it and recall that every time when I looked to see if I was alone I always saw you and no one else.

To my mother the lady that thought me how to live, how to enjoy live, and how to appreciate what I have, you are my best friend, my shoulder, my strength, my reason for being the way I am with my kids, but most of all you’re my mom

I love you and miss you but I will always be happy to have met you and will always enjoy life for us both.

Your son always

Phantom

2010-05-05T09:59:00.001-07:00

05-03-10 Yankees baseball game

2010-05-04T11:40:00.000-07:00

5/3/10 Yankees Game

2010-05-04T09:06:00.000-07:00

My Niece running for Prom Queen

2010-05-04T08:44:00.000-07:00

HELPING PEOPLE

2010-05-04T07:57:00.001-07:00

Is it wrong to be a helpful person, someone that is there for everyone as best as you can be?

Sometimes being there for someone feels like a waste of time; When your assisting someone as a friend or a family member feels so awesome because it comes from the heart, but when time goes by and your not seen as the person that was there for them it feels like a slap in the face, then are you wrong if your not there the next time?

The worst part about being there is when someone who wasn’t there is the one that gets the thank you and your kicked to the side like an old pair of shoes, it does not feel good to that you’re the “expected person” the one that is expected to be there because if you keep chopping the hand that helps you one day there will be nothing to hold on to.

Everyone is human and special in there own way, so stop being blinded but your dreams and wishes and see the truth especially when you ask someone to help you see it.

Life is to short for drama but when you enjoy drama and involving people in it the channel will be changed by those that are not into it, don’t be the person that has lost all connections to the real world because your want to live in a fantasy world.

P.s. don’t take advice from someone that does not take there own advice

Phantom

People and Time

2010-04-06T08:21:00.000-07:00

As we get older we see changes in life that should say to us that we need to also change but there are few people that want to grow up; now it is time to be a parent and influence those that depend on us to assist them in what there future might be.

Is it wise to let our children walk the same path as we did when in fact what we want is better for them? Our generation has gone thru so much and now that the education needed for our children is scarce and/or is limited, we must also keep in mind that the first lesson that our children are thought start with us and if we want better then we need to change ourselves first and leave behind what we went thru because it holds no merit since it was our time and not theirs.

Yes we have walk a path that most people should not have walk, but do we really need to use every inch of our past to influence the future of other by reminding ourselves the bad parts on our lives or should we just recall the wrong and alter it for there future so they never learn a lesson that they should never walk?

We are the people we are today because of lessons we learned in our time as youths let us use the same lessons to make out children better then we are.

Phantom

Life

2010-03-22T09:15:00.000-07:00

Live has a funny way of working out and playing itself out as time moves on.

It is not easy when making choices that effect you in the long wrong, making the correct wons is never that simple and using excuses to explain the wrong choices to yourself is never the the right way.

One thing is for certain the out come of your chices is something you have to live with and if it effects someone then it makes it even that big of a deal that you have to explain at the end of your jurney to the man above.

I hope that what ever my out comes are because of the choices I have made are easy to deal with when the man upstairs come calling all I can do is try and undo what I have done or at least not make the same mistakes I have made and I am forgiven by those that I have effected, they say that time heals all wonds but you will always be left with a scare and scares is something I have a lot of.

If there is one thing I got out of lie so far is be minful of the out come of your choices and if your not alone think of the person or people your around before making the choice just so that you can face the actions of your own doing.

Phantom

Making Miserable People Understand.

2010-03-10T08:44:00.001-08:00

There is a saying that Misery loves company, the funny part is that no one says that about themselves. If a person claims to have a fulfilling life and if it’s so complete with happiness why is it that they enjoy causing mayhem in the lives of others?

Personally I feel that if you know someone that is having a slight indiscretion with someone they should over come it themselves but as a friend stand by in case the need to vent and possible offer some advise that fits the conversation that is being spoken, but before speaking of what they don’t know, maybe they should see how both party are feeling about the situation and be bias with the advice given not pit both parties against each other to see what happens because usually the out come is not what is it is expected to be then they want to take credit for the two party’s reinventing the situation into a positive one.

As simple as it can be said, Let’s start minding our business and stop talking things you know nothing about just because you know the people or family members that are having a problem with one another.

Phantom

To Each His own

2010-03-04T08:36:00.001-08:00

Why is it so important to people to involve you in there lives even if they innocently involve you. People have a problem with seeing that everyone else has a life be it good, bad or ugly and are not here to assist them in something that they really don’t want help with changing.

The real question is why people should suffer because of the wrong choices you made; also why involve someone to clean up your mess when you haven’t learned anything from them.

Real friends are friends no matter what so stop getting upset when they tell you the truth and use that as reason to stop talking to them … Grow Up People.

Understanding Issue

2010-03-02T08:24:00.001-08:00

There are so many people that always have something to say about anything or anyone, why is it that they don’t look at there own mirror or glass house before saying anything?

It is also proper to be open minded because you can learn something from what others have to say, a lot of people are so stuck and set in there ways that they have a hard time to see how time and things have changed and when they finally realize that they are wrong they want people to feel sorry for them.

The question here is why making things so difficult for others easier then fixing thing in your life first?

Please before throwing stones look at your own glass house first.

Snow Day and being a New Yorker

2010-02-25T10:20:00.001-08:00

It has never been easy being a New Yorker and having a snow day and it never will be, but it shows how strong the people are in this great city no matter where we move to and bless the new area with our presence.

The hardest part about being us is the fact that we are New Yorkers, getting judged not for what we have been thru but what we have endured and keep enduring not only for ourselves but for all others in these great United States… Stay true to yourselves …

THOUGHT YOU KNEW SOMEONE

2010-02-24T09:00:00.001-08:00

It is funny how life works you think you know someone because you grew up with them, shared your faults, hurts and your secrets never know what the out come of that knowledge
would be. years go on between you and your friend there is a family involved now, two in fact yours and his.
He looks as if he is stuck in his choices in life, is it right for him to ruin yours just to make him happy, not his life just him? ...
The thing to think about is who's shoes do you fit into?

Hard

2010-02-24T06:55:00.000-08:00

Why is it so hard for people to understand your problems with out being open to what the problem really is?
We are in this world to be open to things not to judge yet everyone points fingers.